You Are the Sun

They say love is like gravity—pulling you in, grounding you, making you feel as if you’ve finally found your place in someone’s orbit. But what happens when that orbit starts to shrink, and suddenly, your world revolves around them instead of you?

It’s easy to lose yourself in a relationship. The lines blur, your priorities shift, and before you know it, their needs, dreams, and desires eclipse your own. You wake up one day realizing you’ve gone from being the main character in your story to playing a supporting role in theirs.

But here’s the truth no one tells you: you are the sun.

You are not meant to orbit around anyone else. You are the center of your own universe—radiant, warm, and powerful. People can come into your life like planets, basking in your light, but they should never dim it.

Yet, in the name of love, we so often give away pieces of ourselves. We make compromises that slowly become sacrifices. We bend so far to accommodate someone else that we forget how to stand tall. And why? Because we’re taught that love requires selflessness. But there’s a fine line between giving and giving yourself away.

Being the sun means understanding your worth—knowing that your light is enough on its own. It means realizing that you don’t need someone else to complete you, because you were never incomplete to begin with.

This doesn’t mean relationships shouldn’t matter. It means they shouldn’t matter more than you do. Love should add to your life, not take away from it. A healthy relationship doesn’t revolve around one person—it balances two whole, shining beings who choose to share their light.

So, how do you stay the sun when love tries to turn you into a moon?

First, remember who you are outside the relationship. Your passions, your dreams, your quirks—these are the things that make you, you. Don’t let them fade because you’re too busy prioritizing someone else’s.

Second, set boundaries. It’s not selfish to say no; it’s self-respect. Love is about compromise, yes, but it’s also about maintaining your individuality. A partner who truly values you will respect the space you need to stay yourself.

And finally, don’t forget your light. When you start to feel like you’re losing yourself, pause. Ask yourself: Am I happy? Am I fulfilled? Am I shining as brightly as I can? If the answer is no, it’s time to recalibrate.

Because here’s the thing: you can’t give warmth to others if your own flame has gone out.

Love should feel like two suns sharing their light, not one dimming to let the other shine. So, don’t let anyone steal your radiance. You are the sun—bright, bold, and unapologetically you.

And if someone can’t handle your heat? Let them go. Because the right person won’t want you to revolve around them—they’ll stand beside you and bask in your glow.